This slave issue. George Washington is on record as being for emancipation and stated that the horrific effects of slavery might take 3 or more generations to erase, you could not free a slave and expect that person to immediately merge right in with the rest of society. That said, what we are dealing with today is a changed world and the attitudes of yesteryear simply don't fit in. That said, those in the south were not necessarily cruel to slaves, although some certainly were, but by and large saw slaves as being totally dependent on them for support, if freed, they'd stave to death. To a great extent, that is a very convenient attitude to adopt, it justifies having slaves but the reason I said Jefferson Davis spent half his time in prison trying to find employment for his ex-slaves is because that was their actual feeling on the matter. His wife wrote him a letter telling him to stop trying to find work for two younger slaves, both about 20 years old, as they had run off to Kansas. Davis wrote his wife back, I'm mis-quoting but basically, "Well, if they think they are so smart that they can make do on their own then fine with me, let's see how well they make out".
"Still fighting the Civil War" There is a very fine line here and I think folks in the south may even get confused on it to an extent. The Civil War was only 4 years but "reconstruction" lasted half a century. Davis wrote that getting recruits for the confederate army was a problem from the start. In the highlands and bottom lands a lot of folks "hid out" so they wouldn't have to fight. There were also pockets of pro-Union folks, like Brunswick Georgia and a lot of places in Florida and Texas. These folks assumed that when the war was over they would be treated well for staying loyal to the union but they got kicked around along with everyone else. This ill treatment is what made EVERYONE in the South angry. For almost a generation the south was treated like a captured country with military governors, appointed "representatives". We have treated the Mexicans following the War with Mexico and our other foes from wars BETTER than we treated our own people. I have come to believe that this ill treatment is why a lot of folks in the south have negative feelings toward Washington, "Big Government, etc. and why they strongly support State's rights. Those in the North think the Civil War ended in 1865 but for those in the south, not re-admitted to the Union with full rights until the 1890's, the effects are very recent. My great uncle (Texas) was born in 1877. My grandfather was born 1888.